ghosting

O que é ghosting e o que motiva a prática

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O "dar um perdido" moderno tem nome: ghosting. O termo vem da palavra "ghost", que significa "fantasma" em inglês.

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Não existe nada mais passivo-agressivo que simplesmente ignorar a existência de alguém com quem se tem/teve algum envolvimento

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Mas, afinal, o que leva alguém a praticar ghosting?

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Nem todo ghosting é igual. Afinal, as pessoas podem estar em níveis diferentes de vínculo. Não responder mais aquele match no aplicativo de namoro é diferente de sumir da vida alguém com quem se construiu um relacionamento, por exemplo.

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Quando o ghosting acontece entre pessoas com vínculos já bem estabelecidos, entra uma questão mais profunda: a psicóloga Tatiana explica que, em um relacionamento, sempre existe uma responsabilidade sobre o outro.

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Neste caso, o mínimo que se espera é que cada um deixe claras suas expectativas e o que está buscando naquele momento da vida. Por exemplo: não está querendo uma relação séria? Deixe a pessoa ciente. Prefere algo não-monogâmico? Avise.

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Outra situação comum é quando uma pessoa começa a namorar e o parceiro (a) pede para que ela pare de responder os antigos contatos, sem dar explicações.

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A psicóloga explica que este é um ponto que precisa de atenção: ninguém pode determinar o que você pode ou não fazer. Esta atitude, inclusive, é um alerta de que esse relacionamento pode vir a se tornar abusivo.

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